Last weekend I had a ticket to a live show that I was really excited about. As the concert approached I realized that none of my friends were in town/available and I very well may have to go by myself.
It may not seem like a big deal to some, but this was very daunting for me because I’m a really social guy. The concert was on a Sunday night, in a not great part of town, and all the people there willl be like “who’s this weird guy at a show by himself?”…
I haven’t spent much time alone over the last 20 years of my life and I definitely haven’t been to a concert by myself.
As the hours drew closer I started making up reasons and justifications for why I might not go.
This couch is awful comfy!
I don’t know where to park in that part of town.
That’s kind of a sketchy area, I probably shouldn’t be walking alone down there.
No one will know if I skip the show.
People at the show will think you’re weird for going alone.
So, about an hour before the show I got ready, and headed out the door. When I got to the venue I found nearby parking, and tons of people heading to the same place as me. It only took about 15 minutes into the show to realize that going alone was no big deal and actually quite fantastic.
I experienced the performance on a much deeper level than past concerts. There was no one to check in with, or try to shout to while the band was playing. Even though I went to the show alone, I had a very real, connected experience with all these strangers and I loved it. I don’t know if they felt the connection the same way, but I hope that they did!
As I walked back to my car, in that sketchy part of town with all of these people, all of the feelings I had before the concert were gone. In it’s place was a feeling of connection, joy, and a tiny bit of hearing impairment. 😁🥰
I guess the moral of the story is don’t listen to that stupid voice inside your head. Just tell it to shut up and jump in with both feet because we’re capable of more than we know and the experience is always worth it!