Over the last week I’ve been participating in a meditation challenge brought on by a friend in my fitness world. She threw it out to her internet friends to join her journey and I obliged.
My own personal experience with meditation is most closely related to breathing exercises I’ve done to combat anxiety and panic attacks, but I’ve never done “meditation” before. The first couple of days were a little awkward, but left me feeling focused and energized to take on my work day. Yesterday was my fifth day of meditation, and what I experienced was something of a breakthrough. I reached out to friends that I value and let them know they are some of my favorite people. I told them very directly that they’re cared for, and that I want them to take care of themselves so they’re around for a very long time. I told them I have confidence in them. I told them that whatever their challenges are right now, I knew they would be triumphant.
I also realized that I will absolutely forgive my ex-wife one day for everything that happened. I don’t think that will be soon, but I know I will one day.
Yet another thing I realized is that I am well under way to filling the hole left in my life with new friends, experiences, and family. Figuring out what’s most important to you and filling that gap with it is the single most healing thing you can do after the loss of someone significant in your life.
My final thought is this.
I want to live with intention. For me this consists of having goals for personal growth and to always work on them. I will not be shy about telling people how I feel or giving them praise. There’s enough negativity in this world and in our lives. Plus, I’d love to be complimented by others. If someone else were living this way and regularly told me what they like about me they’d quickly become one of my favorite people! 🙂
I guess it all comes back around to one of the first rules you’re taught in life.
Treat others as you’d like to be treated.